Have you ever felt like you were stuck in grief? Have you ever woke up the day after a tragedy in your life and at first, for that brief moment, you forgot about it or felt like it was a dream? But very soon you become fully aware. The hurt, the grief, is very real. You realize you have to face another day dealing with all the feelings that seem to be overtaking you. You are stuck and there’s no way out.
I remember waking up the day after my Father died. At first, I thought it was just another day, but then reality kicked in and it hit me...on this earth I have no Father. I had inevitably reached that age where my Grandparents were gone, and now my Dad. The hurt in my heart and the physical pain in my stomach were very real. Grief. The majority of us have been there at some point in our lives. The doctor’s dreaded diagnosis, the day the divorce was final or that loss of a loved one. It’s a horrible feeling, being stuck in grief. It makes you want to pull the covers over your head and flee back to that false sense of calm. That next morning as I was getting ready for the day that I really didn’t want to face, God’s spirit came over me with a peace that passes all understanding. I remembered the words that Jesus uttered at the tomb of Lazarus. “I am the resurrection and the life, he that liveth and believeth in me shall never die. Suddenly my panic became peace, my fate became faith and no longer was I stuck in grief but had the assurance I would see my Father again. My hope was restored.
We’re all going to deal with grief at some point in our lives, if not today, then tomorrow. But I remember the words of the song by Bill Gaither, “Because He lives, I can face tomorrow, Because He lives, all fear is gone, Because I know He holds the future, and life is worth the living just because he lives!”